As I was saying, Tony is an uncommonly generous soul. Here he is in Thor #327 happily offering Thor an entire building and a staff to use for a special gathering. 

From Marvel Team-Up #48.

Here's Tony noticing when a teammate is upset about something -- because he's sensitive like that. And he's always ready to be your shoulder to cry on. (Marvel Team-Up #44) 

Tony displaying more kindness -- and preaching the careful use of force. 

(Amazing Adventures #14)

Update! It turns out I was wrong about Chip Zdarsky's Devil's Reign. It turns out Tony felt out of character because it wasn't the real Tony:

My bad. But I sure hope the real Tony is okay. I'd hate to find out Doc Ock has imprisoned him and is forcing him to kiss his tentacles again. (Oh, who am I kidding? I'd actually love that. Sorry.)

Sure, friend: I'll help rebuild your place for peanuts. (Fantastic Four #244)

From Doctor Strange #35.

Here's another scene in which Tony casually brushes off the prospect of his own death, this time from the sixteenth Amazing Spider-Man annual.

It's amazing, really: with his friends, Tony is a never-ending fount of kindly advice. And yet - and yet - he struggles to apply his wisdom to himself. Everyone else: fantastic people who shouldn't feel guilty for things they can't really control. Tony Stark: absolute asshole who's responsible for everything that goes wrong. (The above page, by the way, is from Captain America #279.)

Tony appears in Bernie's crazy dream from Captain America #289. Back in the 1980's, Assistant Editor's Month was pretty fun! (Some day, I'll show you captures from the Iron Man comic from the same month. The A-story in that issue features little kids pretending to be the Avengers, and it's super cute. <3)

Click below to embiggen my comments on the disappointment that is Devil's Reign:

Happy New Year! 

From Marvel Team-Up #29.

Indeed he is, Spider-Man. (From Marvel Team-Up #10)

My FB memories just reminded me that this is a comic that exists. So here's my mini-thread on... the time Tony is forced to strip bare-ass naked for a fight! pic.twitter.com/r9Zk2HwHvC

— The Right Geek: Domestic Terrorist 🤡 (@TheRightGeek) December 6, 2021

Good old American know-how! (Marvel Two-in-One #12)

Every employee is a friend to Tony Stark.

 

Tony is actually the worst at maintaining his secret identity. (Fantastic 4 #202)

Have a couple of lonely heroes from Fantastic Four #150...

If you would like to read a comic in which Tony Stark voluntarily puts himself in the way of Thor's hammer...

... reveals, once again, that he's amazing with children...

... and spends basically the entire comic muscling through severe anxiety in re: magical bugs crawling inside of his armor, then I recommend The Death of Doctor Strange: Avengers.

From Chuck Dixon's Code of Honor.